Absurdity of “Hate the sin, not the sinner”
As a bisexual man, I get sick and tired of when someone tells me or anyone from the LGBT community that we are sinners and that they hope that we repent and ask god for forgiveness. But hey, it’s a monotony of insanity that continues as days go by. We are told that they love us but they condemn us for not being like them. I had an awkward discussion with a Christian who said that not agreeing with what constitutes as sin is wrong because sin is real. I told her that sin is an imaginary concept that exists solely with Christianity, Islam and Judaism. Buddhism does not cover such concepts since it deals with human suffering and reaching nirvana. Sin was developed to punish those that were not in line with god’s will and paints everyone with a broad brush. She responded by giving me the strawman “so murder is okay” argument. I told her that what concerns me is whether something hurts someone regardless of who does the hurting. She asked if I thought pedophilia was bad and I responded by telling her that you cannot equate sexuality with sexual desires. She disagreed and then gave out that old myth that being gay is a lifestyle and that I should tolerate people who see homosexuality as a sin. But I ended the pointless discussion by simply saying that I cannot tolerate intolerance. It’s not in my heart to tolerate such bigotry. Despite my horrible upbringing, I chose to love people regardless and to always remind myself that we are all people. In conclusion, when you hate the “sin”, you are hating the person. You cannot love someone you condemn. As an old Buddhist mantra goes, without respect there cannot be love.