GLBT, LGBT, TBLG, BTLG, etc. Which do you use and why?
Let me start by saying I hope this can be a civil discussion. I've seen posts like this one turn ugly because the writer or commenters put down one group or another. I'm going to ask that if you comment, you refrain from putting down any group.
I have a few questions I want to ask everyone here.
1) When referring to the group of homosexual, bisexual, transgender, intersex, genderqueer, asexual, and queer people (I realize I am missing some groups of people, but I have a hard time remembering a string of letters after glbtqqai) what do you refer to them as?
2) Why do you refer to the group as that?
3) Would you be against using, or be offended using a term different from your own?
4) Do you feel there is any significance to the order of letters?
5) Do you have any suggestions for a single word term for this group?
My answers and a bit of commentary below the fold.
2) I first learned LGBT, so that is what I used. When I moved people used GLBT, and at some point I switched, but not for any specific reason. Then I started hearing GLBTQ, then GLBTQA, then GLBTQQIA, and after that I was not able to keep it straight, no pun intended.
3) Not at all, I've heard various renditions, and it's all great to me. But I would like to see a single term that wasn't a set of clunky letters used.
4) I don't personally see a significance to the word or order of letters, but I do realize that some people see it as a list of privilege and sexism, so I try to be careful.
5) Unfortunately no. I hear it called gays as an umbrella term, queers as an umbrella term, but it doesn't seem right picking one term from the bunch for a name for all of them.
The reasons I am asking this here is because I have trouble remembering strings of letters that don't form a coherent word. My brain tries to just eject it. As the alphabet soup gets larger and larger, I have more and more problems remembering it.
The way it is now, one group will always be put in front of the other. Some people take offense to that. I'm looking for a term to be inclusive to all that won't put any single group down. So I want to see what other people use and why. If I have a good solid logical reason for letters to be in a specific order, it's easier for me to remember it.
EDIT: Thank you everyone for keeping this as a civil discussion. Let's keep it like that.
The longest version I have seen is:
Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender, Transsexual, Two Spirit, Queer, Questioning, Intersex, Intergender, Asexual, Allies, Pansxual.