Freedom To Marry, San Diego, 2009 - Media ReleaseThe joint media release from Marriage Equality USA and the San Diego Equality Campaign began as follows:

Local same-sex couples will request marriage licenses at the County Clerk’s Office on National Freedom to Marry Day, as part of a planned action co-sponsored by Marriage Equality USA San Diego (MEUSASD) and the San Diego Equality Campaign (SDEC).

We’ll, not exactly.

Freedom To Marry San Diego Ministers 2009Meet San Diego’s genderqueer couple who were the only San Diego couple to take vows in front of the San Diego County Administration Building complex this morning as part of the National Freedom to Marry Day — Missy Luber and Connor Green.

Missy identifies by male, female, and gender neutral pronouns. Missy Luber and Connor GreeneZe and partner Connor Green (Connor identifying as male, and “somewhere between transgender and genderqueer”) recently moved from the Pacific Northwest down to San Diego, and decided to participate in San Diego’s National Freedom to Marry Day event by attempting to obtain a marriage license from the San Diego County Clerk. As expected, their licence request was turned down as a result of Proposition 8.

But, Missy and Connor decided to have a ceremony on the courthouse steps anyway. The ceremony officiant was Sara Beth Brooks, the Executive Chair of the San Diego Equality Campaign. Sara Beth publicly identifies as a bisexual.

Many of us tend to believe that same sex marriage is just an issue reserved Missy Luber, Connor Greene, And Ceremony Officiant Sara Beth Brooksfor the lesbian and gay subcommunities of the lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender (LGBT) community. This really isn’t true. Not only do bisexual and transgender people work towards marriage equality for lesbian and gay people, but they work on marriage equality issues for themselves as well.

We need to remember that bisexual people often would like to marry their same sex partners, Missy Luber and Connor Greene Marriage Certificateas well as that a significant portion of people who identify as transsexual, genderqueer, and/or transgender want to marry partners that their home state considers a same sex partner.

During this Marriage Equality Week, take a moment to consider — to remember — marriage equality is more than just a lesbian and gay issue. Marriage equality is an issue that applies to the entire, broad LGBT community, and sometimes the people who are in the front of the room fighting for marriage equality aren’t lesbian and gay people, but they are often still LGBT community people — such as was the case here in San Diego today.



* Blogswarm for Freedom to Marry Week

* A Look At The Grassroots: Interview Of San Diego Equality Campaign’s Sara Beth Brooks

* Another Look At The Grassroots: An Interview Of Danielle Askini

* Marriage Equality Beyond Just Gays And Lesbians

* Taking A Short Break To Think About Freedom To Marry

* Writing A Toast; Being A Maid Of Honor

* Coming out transgender in same-sex relationships

Autumn Sandeen

Autumn Sandeen