All this chatter out there about Ted Haggard and the sex he claims he did or did not have, got me thinking about sex in the ex-gay programs I attended.
Some people come to ex-gay programs sexually naive. They never had sex in their lives and have little idea where they would even procure gay sex. That is until they walk into an ex-gay program where day after day they hear people talk about gay sex–what's it like, where to get it, how good it felt during the act, how icky one might feel afterward (particularly if that one gets in trouble for it.)
I know of at least two guys from my Love in Action days who came into the program virgins and successfully graduated many months later armed with so much information about cruising spots and anonymous sex protocol that once they left off being ex-gay, they plunged into a gay sex fest that lasted months if not years.
In this video I answer the question many have have asked as I talk about SEX as an ex-gay.
Want to experience more bizarre rules, church hookups and the dangers of bananas in an ex-gay program? Get the Homo No Mo DVD!
Also take a look at Carol Boltz' recent post Ex-Gay Therapy–They Make you Straight Enough to Sleep with a Woman, Long Enough to Break Her Heart.