The WingNutDaily editors decided to dip into the “ex-gay” bowl again and the ladle pulled up Michael Glatze, the former editor-in-chief of the now-departed YGA Magazine and founder of Young Gay America. Glatze has written a column for WND that declares he has “come out” of homosexuality.
The essay is somewhat sad, because it’s clear that he was struggling with multiple issues outside of his orientation, engaging in unhealthy emotional and sexual behaviors that he couldn’t reconcile with his beliefs. His column reveals more about his self-worth issues and general problems with acceptance of himself as a sexual being.
What I discovered — what I learned — about homosexuality was amazing. How I’d first “discovered” homosexual desires back in high school was by noticing that I looked at other guys. How I healed, when it became decidedly clear that I should — or risk hurting more people — is that I paid attention to myself.
Every time I was tempted to lust, I noticed it, caught it, dealt with it. I called it what it was, and then just let it disappear on its own. A huge and vital difference exists between superficial admiration — of yourself, or others — and integral admiration. In loving ourselves fully, we no longer need anything from the “outside” world of lustful desire, recognition from others, or physical satisfaction. Our drives become intrinsic to our very essence, unbridled by neurotic distractions.
…As a leader in the “gay rights” movement, I was given the opportunity to address the public many times. If I could take back some of the things I said, I would. Now I know that homosexuality is lust and pornography wrapped into one. I’ll never let anybody try to convince me otherwise, no matter how slick their tongues or how sad their story. I have seen it. I know the truth.
I don’t know about you, but I’m not sitting around thinking lustful thoughts 24/7. People who cannot find balance in their lives and are fixated on their own physical desires to the point of distraction and self-damnation certainly have deeper problems that need to be addressed, regardless of orientation.
More after the jump…One of the things you notice when reading this piece is that Glatze focuses not on a true conversion to heterosexuality — he doesn’t mention women or a newfound attraction to them — but a continuous battle with urges that he has deemed sinful. What a sad existence. But that’s his life, it’s his choice to believe that suppressing his desires for men is the key to his personal happiness. If he surrounds himself with those in the ex-gay movement, then he will find validation for this struggle as salvation. The “ex-gay” industry preys upon people who are struggling.
Where Glatze crosses the line is saying that for everyone who is gay and accepting of their orientation, there is something inherently flawed or diseased that they must “cure.” Matt Hill Comer hits the nail on the head about the issue of these troubled people coming forward.
The Religious Right and the “ex-gay” movement has done wonders with convincing the American public and LGBTQ people themselves that being gay means being addicted to drugs, alcohol or pornography and that being gay is akin to being a pedophile or that being gay leads to murder and other sins.
This is simply not the case. All people, gay or straight, can be and are addicted to these behaviors and sins. Pedophiles are neither gay nor straight: They are pedophiles.
On the other hand, perhaps Glatze was never gay to begin with. Sexual orientation can be a confusing thing and it is certainly something that a person has no immediate control over. Perhaps Glatze was confused and was straight the entire time.
Every major, professional medical and psychological organization and association has rebuked “ex-gay” and “conversion” therapies. The same organizations and associations say that sexual orientation is something that is unchangeable. One may control his behavior. One may control how one self-identifies, but one will never change his sexual orientation.
On the flip side, Daniel at Box Turtle Bulletin has a first-hand report on yesterday’s Soulforce action highlighting the damaging “ex-gay” industry with its Survivor Initiative. It was launched at National Association for Research and Therapy of Homosexuality’s HQ in Encino, California.
Present were Paige Schilt, Shawn O?Donnell, Darlene Bogle, and myself. NARTH is officially headquartered at Dr. Nicolosi?s clinic in an office tower on Ventura Boulevard. We assembled on the sidewalk in front of the building entrance along with a news crew from the local Fox affiliate and about two dozen supportive community members. Formal statements were made and then Darlene and Shawn took collages representing our exgay journeys and delivered them to NARTH?s office on the 13th floor.
There is video shot at the event by Esteban Rael; below is part one; you can catch part 2 at BTB.
Hat tip, BarbieAnn.