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Q of the day

A lesbian friend of mine was at a business conference out in the boonies here in NC recently. It was held at a Baptist campground that rents out its facilities to non-religious businesses. 

The sponsor was one of the vendors of a product she uses in her work, and as is custom at these kinds of events, the company provided some sort of freebies to the attendees.

In this case it was a free chair massage. She had a nice relaxing massage and when it was through, she was handed a brochure that featured prominently on it that it was a “Christian”-focused massage therapy and spa business. It also had something to the effect of providing massage therapy to promote “healing the way God intended.”  I’m not exactly sure what that all means, but she was a bit freaked out.

I told her that she was probably not as freaked out as this massage therapist would have been if she knew that she was rubbing oil on a lesbian. This was a small town in NC, at a Baptist campground in the middle of the woods, after all.

Q of the day — do you avoid businesses that advertise the sign of the fish for fear of proselytizing or homophobic commentary?

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Forgot to add in this anecdote…

I’ve not had an encounter like the above incident; here in the NC there are plenty of progressive religious folks here, and their vehicles usually don’t have “fish” on them; they are more likely to have an anti-war bumper sticker, or something generic about faith and peace, etc. I have no problem patronizing businesses of those who live their faith, not post it like a commodity.

As far as the in-your-face social conservative “Christians” go, my mother died back in `97, and during the first couple of days after she passed away, people who were acquaintances of hers, not close friends, came to my house to pay their respects. They weren’t in the door two minutes when they began proselytizing about the afterlife, sin, hell, all sorts of things in an inappropriate manner given the circumstances, and quite presumptuous of my and my mother’s beliefs. I found it odd and disturbing.

I began to feel angry, but I didn’t know what to do at the time, because I was grieving, trying to be polite, and organize all the logistics one has to do when you are the executor, I just let it go, let them rail on and showed them the door when they were through. Obviously these people meant well, but they had no clue whether we were anything other than believers of the exact same stripe that they were – and it didn’t matter to them. I mean, what if we were Pagan, Buddhist, agnostic or atheist (or even simply not evangelical)? I don’t think it ever crossed their minds.

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