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Ex-gay searching for a date

There’s an interesting article on the ex-gay movement, ‘Ex-gay’ movement: Saved? Or shoved back into the closet that you should take a look at. There’s an interview with Wayne Besen of Truth Wins Out, and he discusses the damage that the ex-gay movement  causes to real people struggling with acceptance of their orientation, as well as families when that person tries to marry away the gay.

Speaking of relationships, the article speaks to Love Won Out’s Melissa Fryrear, self-proclaimed former homosexual (on Daddy D’s payroll), who defends the organization’s promotion of the ex-gay industry with her personal story — and dating issues. I really felt like laughing at this, but it’s just incredibly sad on so many levels.

Fryrear said she spent 10 years immersed in the gay community, beginning at age 16. In 1992, when she was 26, she said she “made a conscious decision that homosexual behavior was wrong” and began intensive work that included counseling, support groups and conferences.

“I’ve come out of so many closets, it’s a wonder I can find my shoes,” she said. “And by the way, they’re pumps now instead of Army boots.”

Fryrear believes her attractions to women were influenced by the fact she was adopted and by other childhood issues.

She said that even if science can prove a genetic link to homosexuality, it would not change what Focus teaches.

“The reason why is because homosexuality for us is also a moral issue,” she said. “It’s really what we believe and what we’re for is sexual behavior expressed within the boundary of marriage between one man and one woman.”

Fryrear said she has not talked with her former partner in more than a decade. She said she is very happy with her life and has a preference for red-headed men.

She doesn’t have a boyfriend, but is “accepting proposals.”

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