Pastor Ted: I have a 'lifelong' sexual problem
No you don’t Ted; you like to do it with men. The problem isn’t sexual, it’s your inability to psychologically reconcile your desires with your relentless internal self-loathing and your hypocritical public pious, judgment against people who don’t have an issue with their orientation. From this morning’s letter from Haggard, delivered at the 9 AM and 11 AM services at New Life Church.
But I alone am responsible for the confusion caused by my inconsistent statements. The fact is, I am guilty of sexual immorality, and I take responsibility for the entire problem.
I am a deceiver and a liar. There is a part of my life that is so repulsive and dark that I’ve been warring against it all of my adult life.
For extended periods of time, I would enjoy victory and rejoice in freedom. Then, from time to time, the dirt that I thought was gone would resurface, and I would find myself thinking thoughts and experiencing desires that were contrary to everything I believe and teach.
Through the years, I’ve sought assistance in a variety of ways, with none of them proving to be effective in me.
You can’t pray away the gay, but feel free to keep on trying. If it vexes you so much, please get yourself to the nearest ex-gay facility, where you will learn those desires simply won’t go away.
The bottom line — stop hurting your wife and kids. Or, more appropriately, get real counseling if you want to explore what really motivated you to throw your life away for some pole-smoking and meth. Accept that you can, in fact, be gay and there’s nothing wrong with that — until you start hurting others with your deception, lies, and unethical behavior. Where is the confession about his purchase of illegal drugs?
Anyway, Pastor Ted’s not off to a good start; look at who he’s seeking counseling from.
The accusations that have been leveled against me are not all true, but enough of them are true that I have been appropriately and lovingly removed from ministry. Our church’s overseers have required me to submit to the oversight of Dr. James Dobson, Pastor Jack Hayford, and Pastor Tommy Barnett. Those men will perform a thorough analysis of my mental, spiritual, emotional, and physical life. They will guide me through a program with the goal of healing and restoration for my life, my marriage, and my family.
Here’s the full text of his letter to the New Life Congregation.
While there’s absolutely nothing wrong with being gay and evangelical, or even closeted/conflicted about your sexuality, it is a problem when religious leaders, particularly ones in positions to affect legislative policies, start demonizing LGBT citizens who simply want to have their solid relationships legally recognized and the right not to be discriminated against.
For all those griping out there that another mighty homo hypocrite has fallen as a result of “outing,” don’t blame the openly gay folks like Mike Jones. No one can make a horny conflicted pastor hop in the sack with a male sex worker for three years or do meth. No one can entrap a man to chase 16-year-old pages and compulsively IM them about randy, nasty acts. These are men at war with themselves, serious head cases who don’t belong in positions of power when they are clearly conflicted in their private and professional lives regarding core issues about their sexuality and perceived morality.
This isn’t about Satan taking over anyone; this is about denial and an attempt to punish others for feelings that you wish to punish yourself for.
As we’ve discussed here in the comments of other threads, and as John points out today, looking at video of some of the leadership of Pastor Ted’s church who stepped forward for make statements, it looks like a relative twink parade out there. Here’s a link to pix of these guys; there’s a lot of denial and hypocrisy in these evangelical circles. Is your gaydar going off?
Again, where are the closeted/”ex” lesbians in all of this? MIA — only the gayboys seem to be in the mix. About the only one you see surface in all things anti-gay is Focus on the Anus’s Melissa Fryrear.