No one has to 'ask' if you 'tell' in Myspace
I don’t have a page in Myspace, but a millions of people do. A lot of active, closeted military personnel are socializing using the online community, and many are placing themselves at risk if they have profiles that can let the gay cat out of the bag.
Forget “Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell.” Don’t type, don’t post! This foray for good times and casual interaction has become a huge problem for gay service members. There is a false sense of privacy that exists and encourages Myspacers to open up and provide detailed information about their lives. Bad idea. Even if you don’t specify that you’re gay next to the “orientation” classification, pictures of you with your same sex partner, holding hands, kissing, wearing veils…well, let’s just say it. A picture’s worth a thousand words. So, this is my plea to all of you service members out there. If you can’t bear to part with your Myspace account (I can commiserate), restrict it, take down any incriminating photos, monitor the postings on your wall. You don’t want to end your career over some extracurricular fun.
You can find SLDN’s list of online dos and don’ts here.