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The 'ex-gay' machine goes after Wayne Besen

The intellectually and morally bankrupt “ex-gay” movement is smearing author and activist Wayne Besen (Anything But Straight), who is exposing the sickness of that movement with a new effort, Truth Wins Out.

TWO is a non-profit dedicated to countering the disinformation by the “ex-gay” war machine. The launch has brought out the vitriol, including P’shop hack job by “ex-gay” DL Foster on his blog Perspectives in Motion, calling the non-profit’s effort “Wayne Besen’s Final Solution,” referring to him as “Herr Wayne Besen.” Look at this quaint bit of bigotry (PageOneQ):

Later in the post, Foster points out that Besen is Jewish:

In the press conference, Besen (of Jewish descent) claimed that ‘ex-gay’ ministries could not be trusted or tolerated in our tolerant society. To back up those claims he presented evidence that ‘ex-gay’ leaders invariably go back to being gay. Richard Cohen, John Paulk, Michael Johnston and uhhhh those two guys who “fell in love” left their wives, got AIDS and lived happily ever after. Proof positive, he asserted that ‘ex-gay’ ministries were shameless snake oil salesmen.

This personifies the extremism that is characteristic of the ‘ex-gay’ movement, Mr. Besen told PageOneQ today. “They claim they are about love, yet regularly engage in character assassination and misinformation campaigns,” he added.

Besen responded to the image on the site, as well as it’s title, “I am disturbed by the blatant anti-semitism of Rev. Foster. His writing and the use of a graphic image which is so painful to so many speaks loudly not only of Foster, but reflects poorly on the entire so-called ‘ex-gay’ community,” said Besen.

What a mental giant Foster is.

He’s not alone in attacking Truth Wins Out wither. Our penis-possessing friend and head of Concerned Women for America’s Culture & Family Institute, Bob Knight, has his knickers in a twist as well in the post Group Launched to Attack the Ex-Gay Movement. You can listen to him bleat about it, but here is his teaser:

Across the country, thousands of men and women are coming out of the homosexual lifestyle thanks to groups like Exodus International and others. Now, a tiny group of homosexuals who have tried to change and have fallen back into the lifestyle have formed a group to denounce ex-gay ministries.

We all know that these “ex-gay” proponents are sick and dangerous, and the Truth Wins Out site compiles a ton of information on the kind of thinking that hurts gays and lesbians who are struggling with their sexual orientation; this is from TWO’s 10 Wacky ‘Ex-Gay’ Ideas page.

Defeat Will Make Some Straight Men Crave Gay Sex
“Non-homosexual men who experience defeat and failure may also experience homosexual fantasies or dreams.” (Dr. Joseph Nicolosi, National Association of Research and Therapy of Homosexuality)

The Rubber Band Technique
“Every time you catch yourself watching someone erotically or engaging in fantasy, snap the band. This will cause a moderate stinging pain, which serves as a shocking reminder of what you are doing. This should help you interrupt the spell.” (Bill Consiglio, Author, “Homosexual No More”)

Playing Sports Will Make You Hetero
“I recently counseled a fifty-year old man who carried a heavy burden since he was twelve. He thought that he had no eye-hand coordination, could not throw a ball, and therefore was less than the other boys and less than a man. I paired him up with a friend of mine who was willing to play ball with him. Within a few days, a new man was born. He could throw a ball. He just needed some practice and a sympathetic man to show him the ropes.” (Richard Cohen, President, Parents and Friends of Ex-Gays)

Prozac Can Cure Homosexuality
“When we consider that there is no objective distinction between homosexuality and the other perversions, we can easily see how the development of the homosexual ‘habit’ fits into this framework (of cures through medication). Some [homosexuals]…are being successfully treated with Prozac. Here too, sexual reorientation is reported to have occurred incidentally.” (Dr. Jeffrey Satinover , M.D., Author)

Prayer and Faith Cures AIDS
“Today, with God’s abundant grace, and His miraculous power to heal, I walk totally free from the AIDS virus.” (Michael Lumberger, Exodus)

“Matthew was delivered from homosexuality in 1989 and miraculously healed from HIV/AIDS in 1994.” (Mathew C. Manning’s web-site

** Note: Exodus Executive Director Alan Chamber’s also believes that AIDS can be cured through prayer. When asked about Manning’s supposed healing he told Besen, “God is bigger than science.

Trouble in Mom’s Womb Can Make You Gay
“If a mother was experiencing difficulty in her relationship with her husband while carrying a child or if she felt rejected, unloved or unwanted by him or she experienced any other painful experiences during pregnancy, the unborn child within may have experienced these thoughts and feelings as though they were directed at him or her.” (Richard Cohen, President, Parents and Friends of Ex-Gays)

Hypnosis Can Make You Hetero
“At the count of three, your subconscious mind will make you aware of the cause of your homosexual behavior…You need to form in your mind the event you have been looking for whether it was created in this or a previous lifetime…Your soul records are available to you on this issue. You learn from the past and move on!”(Potentials Unlimited, “Gay and Unhappy”, A Self-Hypnotic Tape)

Focusing on a Tree Will Help Make You Hetero
“I would start to experience a sexual response… So I would look out my car window and say something like, ‘Gosh, Lord, there’s a tree out there! That tree is green, and has leaves on it. It’s got brown bark.’ I would fix my mind on anything to distract myself…Over time, that made me mentally disciplined enough to displace all lesbian thoughts, period.”(Anne Paulk, Co-Author, “Love Won Out”)

Many of the Best Christians Are Mentally Ill
“Many of these persons – having suffered breakdowns and hospitalizations in the past – end up being the strongest and most effective Christians because, having been under such bondage to the voices of the past and present, they gladly listen for the life-giving Word in order to survive as persons.” (LeAnne Payne, Author, “The Broken Image”)

Gaining Weight Will Help Make You Hetero
“My weight started to increase, and I found little desire to keep on a strict diet and stay fashionably slim. My very appearance was changing. I was looking less and less gay. And I was perfectly happy about it.”(John Paulk, Spokesperson, Focus on the Family)

I laughed while reading these, but at the same time I remind myself that people like DL Foster actually believe this sh*t. While these theories are bizarre and complete quackery, how many hurting people are wasting their time, mental health and money on these snake oil salesmen who tell gays and lesbians that they are sick and must be delivered from homosexuality.

They will continue
going after any organized effort to counter the lies and deception being propogated by the “ex-gay” movement. TWO’s debut press conference included the stories of ex-ex-gays who cam and shared moving stories about how they were able to leave the grip of the “ex-gay” movement.

I don’t need to remind you all of the insanity of “ex-gay therapist” Richard Cohen and his healing “techniques” recently displayed on Paula Zahn’s show (Inside Ex-Gay therapy), a clear example of why we need TWO out there debunking the sick BS.

I forgot to add this before posting but Fritz mentioned it in the comments, TWO has an excellent 10-point strategic plan to respond to the “ex-gay” movement’s efforts to spread junk science and disinformation.

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