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More "love the sinner, hate the sin" bullsh*t in TX

That’s what Blender Sean in Dallas wrote me a bit ago. He was passing ona link to some letters to the editor in The Dallas Morning News in response to a column by Jacquielynn Floyd, “Proposition 2: Bigotry wrapped up in cruelty.” Prop 2 is the anti-gay marriage amendment (that Governor Rick (Metrosexual?) Perry enthusiastically endorsed, which will be on the November ballot. From Floyd’s column:

If you’re opposed to gay marriage, you can take a stand: Don’t go to any gay weddings. If you really want to signal your disapproval, don’t send a present.

But don’t vote for the mean and meddlesome proposal on the Nov. 8 ballot that would amend the state constitution to outlaw same-sex marriage. Proposition 2 is a cruel piece of ideological bigotry that attempts to create and solve a problem that doesn’t exist.

It’s hard to understand why so many otherwise sensible people have seized on gay marriage as the most menacing potential threat that American society faces. And it’s hard to understand why otherwise decent people see a need to purposely discriminate against couples who want the same workaday legal safeguards as everybody else.

… A lot of people seem to view the “threat” of gay marriage as emblematic of everything that seems to be deteriorating in our selfish, vulgar, navel-baring popular culture. Marriage sometimes looks less like a sound foundation to our societal structure than it does a tabloid soap opera.

They see marriage cheapened by partner-swapping celebrity dimwits, by selfish jerks who don’t stick around long enough to watch the kids grow up, by the cartoonish Anna Nicole Smith and her late husband, J. Howard Marshall II, who was 90 when he died.

Or they believe the hysterical predictions that gay marriage is the first step in a long decline toward institutionalized polygamy, or weddings uniting people and donkeys. [Hey Daddy Donkey Dobson!]

…Proposition 2 will not stop people from being gay. It won’t stop them from moving in together or throwing housewarming parties or joining the PTA. All it will do is make life a little harder for them, and why do you want to do that to people you don’t even know?

What a nice piece. But in the Lone Star State, Sean notes, the following letters are more reflective of the current popular sentiment.

I’m sad to say, these opinions are typical of the mindset here. Little is said in public about gayness, and in Dallas there’s a thriving, large gay population…but the majority of voters here are moderate Baptists who fully subscribe to that old horror, “love the sinner, hate the sin.”

And so I surfed over to the Dallas News to take a peek at the response to the column. Sean’s right; most people just don’t get it — or really just don’t want to confront reality, even if they know gay people. How cruel is that?

Love doesn’t have to mean lifestyle approval

I am no bigot, although I may at times be mean, meddlesome and cruel; ask my 7-year-old son. Being a musician, I have many gay friends whom I love and respect, and I still support Proposition 2.

Name-calling, stereotyping and exaggeration are vices used by both sides of any issue. Unfortunately, it masks the real issues and sends the offensive message that to be on the other side of an issue, you must be backward, fearful, prejudiced, an idiot or all of the above.

To love someone, you don’t have to approve of his or her lifestyle. I don’t believe our society should be forced to redefine marriage. Please don’t presume that to be a friend to gays you have to vote against Proposition 2.

Gay marriage won’t destroy civilization

It’s nice to hear a voice of reason. With so many other things to worry about, why are we, along with our political representatives, still wasting time on the gay marriage issue?

Gay marriage is not going to destroy civilization as we know it. As Jacquielynn Floyd writes, it won’t affect you unless you are invited to the wedding.

Marriage is for stable families, reproduction

I wondered when Jacquielynn Floyd would start talking about me. I consider myself neither a bigot nor an ideologue nor driven by hysteria or prudish sensitivity. It appears that Ms. Floyd is talking to a caricature of who she feels I am.

Marriage serves a societal function, encouraging individuals to form stable family units and reproduce. Gay marriage is not a benefit to the institution or to society.

I am a Christian who accepts gay couples as genuinely good people, but I see gay marriage as a meaningless discarding of a purposeful, longstanding institution in our common society.

Same-sex unions don’t move us forward

We are on this planet to forward the progress of mankind. Promoting same-sex unions is a move in the opposite direction.

Gays and lesbians have proven themselves as loving, dedicated and talented, and America needs their children. What if Albert Einstein’s mother decided to be gay and had no children?

My brother was gay. He was the light of my life, until AIDS killed him. I wish I could tell the son or daughter he never had how great he was.

Apply her logic to prostitution, bigamy, pot

To illustrate the absurdity of Jacquielynn Floyd’s reasoning, I make the following (sarcastic) suggestion:

Those opposed to prostitution, bigamy or marijuana should take a stand by not associating with prostitutes, bigamists or marijuana smokers, but they shouldn’t support the mean and meddlesome laws that prohibit prostitution, bigamy or marijuana possession. Would Ms. Floyd agree with that?

She also states that it’s hard to understand why so many otherwise sensible and decent people oppose gay marriage. I can’t understand why an otherwise sensible and decent columnist seems obsessed with promoting the cause of people who clamor for “rights” on the basis of their perverted sexual orientation.

Bill Morgan, Dallas

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