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Anne Heche unloads on 'ex-gay'-promoting mom

Her daughter may be an alien, but Dr. Nancy Heche, a counselor and psychotherapist, is a homo-bigot.

I hesitated about posting something about this because there was no way to tell that the message was indeed from the actress, but the story seems to have made it onto the news sites now, so someone must have verified it’s Anne.

Anne Heche’s board has a post by the actress blasting her mom and the “ex-gay” movement. Nancy Heche has been traveling in the James Dobson ‘ex-gay’ roadshow known as Love Won Out, telling audiences that the power of prayer made Anne “go straight.” Thank goodness Anne came out of her mental fog to set the record straight — pun intended.

This post is meant to address a couple of questions some people have about my mother, Ellen and me. I realize that the break up with Ellen made a lot of people feel many things, but hopefully this will help you have more of an understanding of it.

Ellen and I had a three and a half year relationship that ended sadly, not because we were both women, but because we both wanted different things for our lives.

This NONSENSE about my mother praying for me is really making me angry. My mother never approved of my relationship with Ellen. Her hatred for our relationship is one of the many things that ultimately led to my breaking off all communication with her. (My mother, that is, not Ellen.)

The “Ex-gay” events that are going on right now make me sick. The fact that my mother is using my name to promote this movement makes me even sicker. I could not disagree more adamanty with what she and her group of unloving, unaccepting, Bible preaching hate mongers are doing. I do not believe that homosexuality is something that should be brainwashed out of someone. I do not believe that homosexuality should be anything but celebrated if that is the thing that makes an individual feel good about their life. I believe, as I have always said, that people should love who they want to love.

And for anyone who ever thought that Ellen and I broke it off becuase of sexuality, you couldn’t be more mistaken. And for anyone who thought my mother’s prayers had anything to do with me marrying a man, forget it. I can safely say that my mother has nothing to do with any decision I make. It has always disturbed me the way religion can twist something to make people feel badly about themselves. Isn’t a loving heart an accepting, caring heart? Certainly my mother has never been “loving.” But that’s just my humble opinion.


It should be noted that Nancy’s husband secretly lived a gay life during their marriage. He died from complications due to AIDS.

See this other Blend post on Nancy Heche.

Hat tips to Jennifer of ReddTurtle and Jeremy of Good As You.

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