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Daddy Dobson asks: 'Is My Child Becoming Homosexual?'

“By the time the adolescent hormones kick in during early adolescence, a full-blown gender identity crisis threatens to overwhelm the teenager.”
— Dr. James Dobson

Elise at After School Snack shot me an email with this unbelievable dung from James Dobson. It’s from his “Focus on Your Child” site, under the heading Helping Boys Become Men, and Girls Become Women: Is My Child Becoming Homosexual?

Remember, Daddy Dobson is a “child psychologist.” He wants to make sure that you turn that fairy boy around before it’s too late. And he’s only focusing on boys.

Dr. Joseph Nicolosi reports, “In one study of 60 effeminate boys ages 4 to 11, 98 percent of them engaged in cross-dressing, and 83 percent said they wished they had been born a girl.”

Evidences of gender confusion or doubt in boys ages 5 to 11 may include:

1. A strong feeling that they are “different” from other boys.

2. A tendency to cry easily, be less athletic, and dislike the roughhousing that other boys enjoy.

3. A persistent preference to play female roles in make-believe play.

4. A strong preference to spend time in the company of girls and participate in their games and other pastimes.

5. A susceptibility to be bullied by other boys, who may tease them unmercifully and call them “queer,” “fag” and “gay.”

6. A tendency to walk, talk, dress and even “think” effeminately.

7. A repeatedly stated desire to be — or insistence that he is — a girl.

If your child is experiencing several signs of gender confusion, is available. It’s best to seek that help before your child reaches puberty.

Notice that Dobson he doesn’t have a convenient list for girls? Why are we always left out of the bullsh*ttery? Waah. I even surfed on Dobson’s site, looking for lesbian-specific counseling and he falls short. Here’s more drivel…

Perhaps you are concerned about your child and his or her “sexual development.” Maybe your son or daughter is saying things like, “I must be gay,” or “I’m bisexual.” You’ve found same-sex porn in his room or evidence that he has accessed it on the Internet. You’ve found intimate journal entries about another girl in her diary. The most important message I can offer to you is that there is no such thing as a “gay child” or a “gay teen.” [But] left untreated, studies show these boys have a 75 percent chance of becoming homosexual or bisexual. 14

It is important to understand, however, that most of my homosexual clients were not explicitly feminine when they were children. More often, they displayed a “nonmasculinity” that set them painfully apart from other boys: unathletic, somewhat passive, unaggressive and uninterested in rough-and-tumble play. A number of them had traits that could be considered gifts: bright, precocious, social and relational and artistically talented. These characteristics had one common tendency: they set them apart from their male peers and contributed to a distortion in the development of their normal gender identity.

He’s a big advocate of “ex-gay” ministries, on most of the pages on homosexuality he directs the reader to Exodus International or the National Association for Research and Therapy of Homosexuality.

I did finally find a passage on lesbianism, and it’s completely unhinged. I don’t know what the hell he is talking about, or what bogus research he’s using as a reference for his “facts.” (He’s probably using Paul Cameron‘s work). He spends the majority of this passage talking about bisexual women.

The fact is, most women who have sex with women do not do so exclusively. Approximately two-thirds of women surveyed have also had sex with men within the last five years.34 Sexually transmitted disease rates for bisexually active women are as much as twice that of those who engage in exclusively lesbian activity. 35 Likewise, studies have also shown that a significant number of lesbian women engage in other risky behaviors which increase medical risks of disease, such as drug use and exchanging sex for drugs and money.36 Another study reported that lesbians may have higher rates of breast and ovarian cancer because of a variety of risk factors like nulliparity (never having borne a child), childbearing later in life, higher rates of alcohol consumption and obesity.”37

The National Coalition of Anti-Violence Programs (NCAVP) has reported that domestic violence is as common in lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender relationships as it is in heterosexual relationships. While Lesbian partnerships generally are of longer duration than gay male relationships, there exists the counterfeit of healthy attachment-including, manipulative behaviors, emotional dependency and over-enmeshment.38

…This is cause for great concern as “many lesbian-identified women have other risk factors for cervical dysplasia, such as multiple male partners, heterosexual intercourse at an early age and cigarette smoking.”40

He’s really reaching here. It’s obvious he cannot come up with enough scare tactics related to lesbianism itself to make a clear point. Pathetic.

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