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2/7/2005 LGBT News Roundup

Let’s start off with the good news

Newsday: NY State Supreme Court rules — gays may marry There still needs to be a ruling at the Court of Appeals (see this graphic of the NY court system), but this is promising. “A Manhattan judge declared Friday that a section of law that forbids same-sex marriage violates the state constitution, a ruling which if upheld on appeal would allow gay couples to wed. State Supreme Court Justice Doris Ling-Cohan ruled that the words “husband,” “wife,” “groom” and “bride” in relevant sections of the Domestic Relations Law “shall be construed to mean ‘spouse,’ and all personal pronouns … shall be construed to apply equally to either men or women.”

Mayor Mike Bloomberg is gambling NY’s high court will rule in favor of gay civil marriage.

NY’s mayor appeals gay marriage ruling, tossing decision up to high court. Yep, it’s a crap shoot. I understand his motives — Mike Bloomberg is supportive of gay marriage, but he’s betting on the higher state courts to eventually rule in favor of it. It’s still an unsettling game of legal chicken. “A day after a judge in Manhattan issued the first New York State court ruling in support of gay marriage, Mayor Michael R. Bloomberg said New York City would appeal the decision, effectively closing the door on such marriages until the issue is decided by a higher court. Speaking on a Chinatown sidewalk yesterday afternoon after attending a community event, Mr. Bloomberg told reporters that the city would try “to expedite the appeal directly to the highest court,” the state’s Court of Appeals, “so that people will have a right once and for all to know where they stand. With New York’s highest court now likely to face an issue that has proved its political potency around the country, Mr. Bloomberg said he personally favored gay marriage. It was the first time, according to his aides, that he has so clearly stated his position in public. He went further last night at a dinner held by the Human Rights Campaign, a gay rights group, where he told the guests at the Waldorf-Astoria that he would “work with you to change the law” in Albany if the lower court ruling – which he called “something to celebrate” – was struck down.

Rabid religious wingnuts, Freepers and homo-bigot preachers on the loose.

I don’t even know where to begin with this – PFOX’s “Ex-Gay” & “Everstraight” Student Club. “Start an ex-gay club at your school!” Does this make ANY sense? Parents and Friends of Ex-Gays & Gays (PFOX) has gone off the deep end. Their response to Gay Straight Alliances (GSA) at schools is to encourage kids to start “Ex-Gay” & “Everstraight Clubs”. Since when does a majority group (straight folks) need a support group? This is this utterly lame*ss crap. PFOX, of course, was recently in the news because one of its leaders, Richard Cohen, was expelled from the American Counseling Association for unethical behavior. These folks are freaking dangerous to gays and lesbians that are struggling with their identity. In this little initiative, they seem comically pathetic — it only underscores the need for more GSAs.

The purpose of an ex-gay & everstraight club is to provide a safe environment for all students to discuss alternatives to homosexuality and find ex-gay resources. Clubs can be started by students who have never been gay (everstraights), ex-gay students, and those struggling with unwanted same sex attraction. These alternative ex-gay clubs are started at schools (high school or college) which already have a GSA (Gay Straight Alliance) or similar gay affirming club. These ex-gay clubs can be called by whatever name the student(s) decide is best for their school.

The whole idea behind this effort is to counteract what PFOX suggests is an overwhelmingly queer-centric world out to recruit horny teens into the so-called “gay lifestyle.” Since when has high school been a haven for homosexual expression? I doubt “faggot” or “dyke” have fallen out of favor as a slur for most insecure young people. When was the last time a straight person was targeted for liking someone of the opposite sex? Good god, my head hurts thinking of this stupidity. Read on and try not to let your head explode…

With an Ex-Gay Alternatives Club at their school, students have the option of receiving all of the facts on sexual orientation before trying to adopt a gay identity. Students need positive support from teachers and their peers to deal with their unwanted same sex attractions. Straight kids (everstraights) need to understand what their peers are struggling with and why. Schools must present ex-gay options and resources…According to the Center for Disease Control (CDC), in the year 2000, 49% of all AIDS cases were among young men who had sex with other males, ranging in ages 13 to 24. An Ex-Gay Alternatives Club will introduce alternatives to homosexuality so that young people will not find it necessary to participate in risky sexual behavior.

Look at this ridiculous recruiting meeting poster:


Alternatives is a club for ex-gay, gay, everstraight and questioning youth to safely discuss sexual orientation:

For those struggling with same sex attractions – Why do I have same sex feelings? Does it always have to be this way? Do I have to take on a gay identity?

For questioning youth – If I have gay thoughts or feelings, does that mean I’m a homosexual? Am I gay if other kids call me gay names?

For straight teens – How can I understand sexual orientation? How can I help stop name calling against gay kids? Can gays at school be my friends?

For ex-gay teens – How do I explain sexual reorientation to others? How can I find support for my journey out of homosexuality? Are there any ex-gay books I can read?

Welcome to the Alternatives Club! We will confidentially discuss sexual orientation in a supportive environment and together try to find a way out of the confusion.

Good grief – who is forcing these kids to engage in homosex? What are they talking about? These freaks at PFOX — they are truly off their rockers —

NY Congressman Major Owens knows the deep sh*t that the Dems are in regarding this issue. Televangelist Frederick K.C. Price of L.A.’s Crenshaw Christian Center backs Bush and is taking part in a 100-minister summit opposing same-sex civil marriage.

GOP hijacking more black pastors into its bible-based Taliban takeover. As I’ve been noting here and here, the Democratic Party is allowing the religious Right and the slimy Bush admin to siphon off black pastors (and with them, black votes) by stirring up the pot of “values” and tossing them faith-based initiative cash. This LA Times story gets to the heart of why this needs to be taken seriously. The black religious wingnuts are emerging, organizing and planning to take control of the agenda and the spin with the help (and funding) of the Repugs and the evangelical fringe.

The GOP even plans to enlist these new “friends” in the PR war against Social Security. WAKE UP PEOPLE. They are not going to let go of the gay bogeyman, as long as it can be used to rile up people, regardless of whether the Dem establishment knows it is a red herring. (LA Times):

… The effort will be visible today at the Crenshaw Christian Center, one of Los Angeles’ biggest black churches, headed by televangelist Frederick K.C. Price. More than 100 African American ministers are to gather in the first of several regional summits to build support for banning same-sex marriage – a signature issue that drew socially conservative blacks to the Republican column last year.

Before the meeting, one prominent minister plans to unveil a “Black Contract With America on Moral Values,” a call for Bible-based action by government and churches to promote conservative priorities. It is patterned loosely on the “Contract With America” that former House Speaker Newt Gingrich used 10 years ago to inaugurate an era of GOP dominance in Congress. A separate group with ties to Gingrich will announce a similar “Mayflower Compact for Black America” later this month in Washington, which includes plans to organize in key states ahead of the 2006 and 2008 elections. And at the end of the month, the Heritage Foundation will cosponsor a gathering of black conservatives in Washington designed to counter dominance of the “America-hating black liberal leadership” and to focus African American voters on moral issues.

Those events all enjoy support from the Republican Party and its allies in the philanthropic and religious worlds. The meetings have a common goal: to foster a political realignment that, if successful, would challenge the Democrats’ decades-long lock on the loyalty of black voters.

…”I am frightened by what is happening,” said Rep. Major R. Owens, an 11-term Democratic congressman from New York who has been conferring with colleagues in the Congressional Black Caucus. “Our party is in grave danger. This Republican movement is going to expand exponentially unless we do something.”

Bishop Harry R. Jackson Jr. has gotten into political bed with Ken Mehlman and the GOP and will unveil the The Black Contract With America.

The Black Contract With America will be unveiled by Bishop Harry R. Jackson Jr., a registered Democrat from suburban Washington who backed Bush in 2004 after voting against him four years earlier. He was drawn, he said, to the GOP’s social conservatism that he thought reflected the true values of black churches.

… In addition to such conservative GOP priorities as allowing workers to create private Social Security (news – web sites) accounts and banning same-sex marriage, the Jackson contract deals with some potentially dicey issues for Republicans – such as restoring rights to former felons. The contract, Jackson said, combines the Bible-based elements of the traditionally Republican and Democratic platforms.

…Jackson’s enthusiasm for working with Washington’s Republican power structure is shared by the party’s leading strategists. Today’s Los Angeles meeting is sponsored in part by the Traditional Values Coalition, headed by the Rev. Louis P. Sheldon, a white evangelical Christian with close ties to White House political strategist Karl Rove, Republican National Committee Chairman Ken Mehlman and other senior Bush administration officials. Mehlman said Monday that he was in close contact with the organizers of each group and was coordinating with Gingrich and other party leaders.

In my earlier Blend post on Mel Watt and framing gay rights for this population, the Dems have a roadmap, if they only would get some balls and stop being afraid of mentioning the word G-A-Y.

Other new Bush colored friends of faith (the House Blend’s running list):

Bishop Sedgwick Daniels of Milwaukee’s Holy Redeemer Church of God in Christ buys into Bush’s faith-based initiatives and “values.” Homophobe Rev. Dwight McKissic, pastor of Cornerstone Baptist Church in Arlington, TX is on board with the Bush American Taliban agenda, and Philadelphia’s Rev. Herb Lusk, pastor of the Greater Exodus Baptist Church has had his coffers filled with a cool million to run faith-based initiatives by the Administration.

General corporate, legislative, legal and community activism by your jolly neighborhood homophobes

The Rev. Terry Fox, middle, senior pastor of Wichita’s Immanuel Baptist Church, gives a thumbs-up to the Kansas House of Representatives after a proposed constitutional amendment banning same-sex marriage passed Wednesday at the Statehouse in Topeka. Pat Bullock, left, is with the Heart of Kansas and Phillip “Bo” Graves, right, is senior pastor at First Baptist Church in Haysville. Kansans will vote on the measure on April 5.

Help needed in Kansas as marriage amendment pushes forward. It looks like Kansas is definitely under the gun…First, some background on the current state of things. The Kansas House adopted a proposed amendment to the state Constitution to ban same-sex marriage and civil unions. The vote was 86-3 — three more votes than the two-thirds majority needed. The amendment states that only married couples of one man and one woman would be entitled to the “rights or incidents” of marriage. The statewide vote is slated for April 5, with only a simple majority needed. Tiffany Muller, a gay-rights lobbyist and Topeka city councilwoman, denounced the proposal. “This is about actively hurting people in this state,” Muller said. She said opponents would fight the measure, but given the success of similar proposals in other states, she wasn’t optimistic. “We are going to have to rely on the courts to uphold our civil rights,” she said. House Blend reader Paul forwarded me this email from Richard Donner, of the Kansas Unity and Pride Alliance, which is woefully underpowered to lobby against this amendment push. He’s looking for help locally (and nationwide), so spreading the word is always a good thing.

[There is no Equality Kansas, BTW. There is reference to one that disbanded in ’97, when I Googled it.]

From: “Richard Donner”

Subject: RE: We need your HELP NOW. Kansas Constitutional Amendment

Hello to our brother and sister state wide organizations-As you know we lost the amendment battle in the Kansas House yesterday and now have less then three months to mount a campaign . We have little or no money, lots of passion, some people and groups who are willing to help and no campaign manger. What I (we) need from you NOW is-

1. Specific detailed media campaigns that have worked in the Midwest-especially media

2. Ideas to make a few short dollars go as long a way as possible

3. The name of anyone who is interested in and has experience in doing a short term issue campaign starting immediately.

4.Anything else you think that would help us.

5. Money !!! Seriously we need you all to help us raise money outside of Kansas- contact me for more specific information or check out our web site at

Email me directly at Please help us in Kansas.

Richard Donner, PhD

Executive Director


Topeka, KS 66611


For those of you that think it’s enough to feel good about the fact that there are Blue states where progress is being made, I beg you to really hear the sense of purpose in the above email, despite the long odds faced.

Gay people live everywhere in this great nation. To say that it is sufficient to make “safe spaces” in a few states (MA, VT, possibly NY next) and the hell with the rest of the states is simply not good enough. We can’t let states like Kansas (or god forbid, NC) go without a fight.

My marriage is sowing the seeds of societal destruction in NC.

North Carolina’s constitution is under attack. I was born in this state, moved away for many years, living as a New Yorker, but that time away never took the Tar Heel out of me. I missed it, so I returned. I also love the fact that my hometown, Durham is in a bluest of blue counties; it is not uncommon to see gay and lesbian couples out and proud walking in downtown areas. Major employers in the area include universities, medical centers, hi-tech, non-profits and municipal governments that offer partnership benefits to its gay employees. Neighborhoods are diverse and progressive, all seems well with the world.

However, once you drive outside of this bubble of tolerance (just a few miles outside, even), you encounter the harsh reality that this is a red state, where tolerance can be hard to find, the bible is beaten hard, and a sizeable amount of wingnuts are appalled by what they see going on in the bubble. This is what has created the legislative backlash that scares me.

Passing this heinous amendment would deny equal rights to gays and lesbians by squashing any future legislative and legal efforts at the state level toward civil recognition of gay and lesbian families. This would affect health benefits and hospital visitation, inheritance rights, and child custody rights. It would also hurt unmarried heterosexual couples in the above areas as well. This is already posing a serious problem in domestic abuse cases in states like Ohio where amendments have passed.

It’s clear that Tar Heel legislators behind this measure need to re-learn what the difference is between the civil and religious or ceremonial aspects of marriage. Achieving legal equality in the civil aspect of marriage has no bearing on a church’s recognition of such a union. It is apparent that these lawmakers don’t give a damn about any of this. It’s going to be a long, frightening fight ahead for gays and lesbians in NC. One can only hope that the economic impact of enshrining hate into our constitution will carry some weight in this battle, since no appeal to their humanity or concern for their gay and lesbian constituents will reach them.

How to help with this fight (in this state and others):

  1. Support Equality organizations in your state, if it is at risk for an amendment challenge. Give your time and money, if you can spare. In North Carolina, the organization at the grassroots level is Equality NC.

  2. If you are gay and if it is at all possible for you to safely come out, DO IT. No one ever regrets throwing open that closet door, even if the path is difficult for a while. The more that people realize we are your neighbors, co-workers, teachers, police officers and leaders in the community, the less effective the “fear and loathing” demonization campaign by the Right is. We’re usually living average, boringly normal workaday lives like the average American and no threat to life as we know it.

  3. If you are straight and an ally, COME OUT. Support your gay friends and loved ones when you hear intolerant conversation, politely engage ignorance with information.

  4. Make the Democratic establishment get off of their asses on this issue. Too many are DINOs, ready to sacrifice all principles for a vote as a career politician. Courage is in short supply, apparently, so these losers need to be threatened with the electoral boot. Party hacks need to be held accountable. Write them and call them out in emails and in the blogosphere. So far, I’ve only heard Mel Watt (D-NC) make a persuasive case on how to approach gay civil rights in the public sphere. Where are all the other Dems? Let them have it. Don’t give a dime unless they are willing to take a real position, not the punt of “marriage is between a man and a woman” so there’s no need for a constitutional amendment, “unless the courts see otherwise.”

  5. Read blogs covering the issue. I will keep my House Blenders informed as things progress here.

Investigators found John and Linda Dollar in Utah by tracking cell phone signals. Being straight doesn’t guarantee you’re qualified to be a adoptive parent. But it’s required in Florida.

Depraved adoptive (and heterosexual) parents from Florida, John and Linda Dollar, captured. I cannot overlook the irony that this sick heterosexual couple, described as “strict and religious” no less, was able to adopt and torture, starve and electro-shock innocent children. In Florida. Jeb’s state has ruled gay people, are ineligible to adopt. What did this state do to ensure this couple was qualified to adopt kids? “A Citrus County couple accused of torturing and starving five of their eight adopted children were arrested Friday evening in southeastern Utah. John and Linda Dollar were arrested at 7:10 p.m. Eastern Standard Time after law officers saw their gold Lexus sport utility vehicle on a roadway. Investigators said they learned the Dollars were in Utah by tracking their cell phone signals. The children told investigators that the Dollars starved them, shocked them with electricity, pulled out their toenails with pliers, bound them with chains and strips of plastic and struck their feet with hammers. A 16-year-old boy weighed 59 pounds. Twin boys, age 14, weighed 36 and 38 pounds, the Sheriff’s Office said. Seven children, ranging in age from 12 to 17, were living with the Dollars on Jan. 21, when authorities first began to suspect abuse. The children now are in the custody of the Department of Children and Families Friends and neighbors, meantime, described the Dollars as religious and strict, and said the children hardly ever were seen.

Compassion doesn’t begin at home with the Keyes.

Looks like Maya Keyes kicked her closet door open — and her dad has no mercy. Maya is the daughter of wingnut supreme (and the doormat Baraka Obama wiped his feet on before heading to the Senate) Alan Keyes. Oliver Willis points out that Maya has officially come out of the closet, and her family kicked her out. So much for compassionate conservatism. She’ll land on her feet. If HRC or the NGLTF has any sense, they’ll sign her up to speak out on a national level about the hypocrisy of the allegedly religious Right. There’s nothing more disgusting than your family rejecting you for simply being yourself. In the Keyes house, the vice is being a “selfish hedonist,” like Mary Cheney. She’s going to be speaking at an Equality Maryland event. “Maya Marcel Keyes, the self-described queer activist who is also daughter of ultra-conservative Alan Keyes, whose recent campaign for senator from Illinois included his calling Mary Cheney a “hedonist.” Maya grew up in Montgomery County and will certainly have some interesting things to say about living with someone who is so outspoken in his opposition to gay rights.” Alan Keyes needs to take a good look in the mirror.

Robert Rigby, a Falls Church High School teacher, said using a classroom setting to say that homosexuality is a choice could hurt gay students. (Frank Johnston — The Washington Post)

VA school board reprimands wingnut official for touting “ex-gay” propaganda. At least this time, the wingnut was called out and was forced to apologize. I’m sure in many, many other districts around the country, sending a letter promoting the “ex-gay” movement wouldn’t even cause a stir. “The Fairfax County School Board issued a public reprimand last night to a member who sent a letter to high school principals urging them to ensure that students hear the views of people who believe homosexuality is a choice and a “destructive lifestyle.” After a unanimous vote and a nearly two-hour closed session that ended about 11, Board Chairman Phillip A. Niedzielski-Eichner (Providence) released a board statement criticizing the actions of Stephen M. Hunt (At Large). “The letter sent by Mr. Hunt was not authorized by and does not reflect the views of the School Board,” according to the statement. “The School Board continues to support the family life education curriculum and its treatment of this sensitive subject…Earlier yesterday, as news of the letter spread, so did the debate over a school district’s role in teaching about sex and sexual preference. Robert Rigby Jr., a gay Fairfax County schoolteacher, expressed concern that Hunt’s letter might be harmful to gay students. “The problem with promoting the ex-gay movement is it is part of a larger movement that is against gay people,” Rigby said.

Should I say anything here? It would probably be unkind.

Gay Marriage Ban Fails in Idaho; Freepers hot under the collar. Some good news…: “A proposal to write a ban on same-sex marriage into the Idaho Constitution was defeated Wednesday for the second consecutive year. A statutory prohibition remains in force. The constitutional measure had majority support in the state Senate in a 21-14 vote. But that fell short of the two-thirds majority needed to send the constitutional amendment to a vote of the people. Eight Republican senators and six Democrats voted against. The amendment would have invalidated any type of marriage or civil union except those between one man and one woman. You know I had to do it…

Actual Freeper Quotes™:”Wow. Why would this fail in one of the top 5 most conservative states in the Union? I hope you spud-heads replace the politicians who voted no in the next election!”

“Sad. WA state is next. God help us all.”

“Wha-a-at?? Idaho?!! That’s where I’ve wanted to move! Unngh! ”

“Liberal strains are deeper than what we had hoped.”

“First Washington (state), then Idaho and Montana. I believe what you’re seeing is the “liberal flight” effect – the lefties leaving Kalifornica and infesting other areas. The “Homies” need to stop these parasites in their tracks, lest you find yourself in the same straits as Washington…”

“The gay lobby has tons of money thats why. It is so sad that the politicians really only represent the interests of a very few. The majority’s opinion is irrelevant to them. They figure we are too busy living our lives and working to care about what they are doing.”

“Sad. Sad. Sad. Kansas ahead of Idaho…..”

Eight Republican senators joined with six Democrats to form a blockade of moderates. Does Utah have a Recall provision in their State Constitution? Looks like there’s at least 8 targets right here.”

I know nothing about this, but off the top of my head I’d guess it’s about polygamy. Aren’t there a good number of renegade old school Mormon people there in Idaho?”

“Yeah, the liberals vote for policies that destroy the schools, economy and the culture of their community. Then when it gets too bad to live where they live, they move and start to infest and destroy another place. Like cock roaches or something.”

“Gay marriage is a complete ruse. Most gays/lesbians aren’t even interested in it. The real goal is to dilute the meaning of “marriage.” The homosexual lobby is intent on destroying the family, nothing more and nothing less. Intolerance for barely-disguised war against the crucial institution of the family is no vice.”

“Spot on buddy… Break the Church…Break the Marriage…Break the Family…Break the Democracy…GLBTSMFC agenda. in a nutshell (Gay Lesbo Bi Tranny Socialist Marxist Facist Communist)”

Alabama Governor Bob Riley is a family man, and as long as he’s in charge, his kind of family – a hetero one – is the only one that gets his endorsement. Democrat Rep. Yusuf Salaam backs the marriage ban as well. Another brother bites the dust. Any Dems out there paying attention?

Alabama at it again: Marriage bill moves to House, anti-gay fliers put out by GOP. It gets tiring talking about this state’s backwards, redneck race to the bottom of civilization, but it must be done. First up, “progress” on the state’s marriage amendment bill. “The measure was approved by a 12 – 2 vote Wednesday in committee. The only issue was when the measure would go to voters. Democrats who control the House pushed to have it placed on the 2006 primary ballot. Republicans attempted to have it moved to the 2006 general election. The proposed amendment would define marriage as a union between a man and a woman. The House will likely vote on the bill early next week as one of the first pieces of business in the new legislative year. Since it has the endorsement of both parties and the support of Gov. Bob Riley there is virtually no chance the measure will be defeated. Although Alabama already has legislation blocking same-sex marriage, both Democrats and Republicans agree that the only way to prevent judges from overturning the law is to enshrine traditional marriage in the state Constitution. “We do have a responsibility as legislators to do what’s best for the long-term interest of the state,” said bill sponsor Rep. Yusuf Salaam (D-Selma).

Democrat Gloria Dolbare was on the receiving end of a homo-bigot campaign by the Alabama GOP.

Then, we have the little matter of the Repugs attempting to smear a Dem candidate because she didn’t sign a pledge to support an amendment. The Alabama Republican Legislative Committee sent out a homophobic flier, in true ignorant, down and dirty politics fashion. (NBC 15 ): “The flier, sponsored by the Republican Legislative Committee, stated that Democrat Gloria Dolbare had not signed a Christian Coalition pledge to support a constitutional amendment to ban same-sex marriages in the state. In a special election last month, she lost a bid to fill the seat vacated by the death of her minister husband. The flier said: “Let Gloria Dolbare know God made Adam and Eve, not Adam and Steve!” Dolbare, a school teacher from Bigbee, said she never saw the pledge but during the campaign probably set it aside with other mail. “I never dreamed how dirty politics could be,” said Dolbare, widow of state Rep. Jeff Dolbare, who died from cancer last year…The first page of the flier shows a classical painting that appears to represent the Garden of Eden and a nearly naked man and a woman with a copy of the Christian Coalition pledge covering her body. A photo on the left side of the flier’s second page shows two smiling men on a porch. One is kneeling on one knee before the other and holding the man’s left hand in both of his own. “God made Adam and Eve,” the flier says, “but Gloria Dolbare wants you to meet … Adam and Steve!”

Margaret Spellings, had her panties in a bunch over an innocent cartoon episode featuring two lesbian couples. She doesn’t want America’s children “exposed to this lifestyle.”

PBS’s Buster the bunny meets lesbians – and the world doesn’t end. House Blend reader Katherine wanted to share her email about the airing of the infamous PBS cartoon that has been pulled from stations because it depicts lesbian families. It aired on our local PBS station, UNC-TV in Chapel Hill on the SOTU address day. What a hoot.

New Education Secretary Margaret Spellings raised hell about this recently, which I blogged about on the Blend a few days ago.

From: Katherine

Date: Thu, 3 Feb 2005 09:06:15 EST

Subject: unctv frees buster baxter!

To: Pam

Hi Pam,

Well, I was very surprised yesterday when my five year old son turned on Postcards From Buster – recently on the new Secretary of Education’s hit list for an upcoming show on Vermont, maple sugar, and, oh, yeah, same-sex couples. The Vermont show was on! (I thought it was scheduled for March – must be a Chapel Hill thing to run it the day of the State of the Union address.)

Well, this new Secretary of Education must have some kind of paranoid delusions because this show was as edgy and in-your-face gay agenda as, say, an episode of “Kate and Allie.” Seriously! Buster arrived at the house, met one woman, she took him inside and said hi to another woman. Then, kid stuff – Buster cleverly noted that the two brothers, one African-American and one Caucasian, didn’t look alike. They explained they were stepbrothers. Okay. The daughter did show a photo of the two moms and said it was special to her because it was a photo of people who meant a lot to her. Something like that.

I am waiting for the controversy. Their house is clean, the mom makes chocolate chip cookies, they are JEWISH.(was this the problem?) My son wondered why he couldn’t light candles at dinner as they did. They prayed. Buster visited a farm, saw a guy milk cows, saw maple sugaring, ate a lot. The family and another family with two moms who were NOT mentioned in any way – it was all about kids – had a bonfire. They dragged out a Christmas tree to burn and yelled, “Goodbye Winter!” Oh, the dog ate Buster’s gifts for his mom, and Buster fainted, but he recovered.

I was disappointed that it did not even PROVIDE an opportunity to talk about same sex marriage or couples and kids. I asked my son what he noticed about the families, and it was all about candles, how much sap it takes to make maple syrup, and the dog eating the presents. He did not notice the two moms at all, and he is a pretty observant kid. All I can think is that Secretary of Education must also see dead people, communists under her bed, and black helicopters because this show was completely tame.

Now, the one with the Mormons and their overpopulating the world big family, THAT one bugged me. But that is another story.

Please feel free to share my post. It was a nice episode, about Vermont and maple syrup. NO marriage mentioned, of any kind. Just happy families, cows, stuff.


Freepers pissed at an MTV gay segment of Room Raiders. Apparently the totally throwaway MTV program Room Raiders is making the Freepers lose it because gay folks were featured on an episode. I guess soon all they’ll have is the Family Channel.

Actual Freeper Quotes™: Here is the original Freep post:

“I just was flipping through the channels and came across room raiders on MTV. I watch it sometimes and it can be entertaining. However, tonight I was uterly disgusted to see an actual gay segment of the program. There were three gay guys who had their rooms raided by another guy. Listen, I am not homophobic. I have no problem with gay people if they keep what they to the privacy of their home. I do have a problem with those gays that try to redefine marriage or in this case push their lifestyle in the public sphere. MTV is a willing culprit. Is there anything we can do to stop this?? I doubt an email campaign would work, but maybe it might be worth it. Any suggestions?”

Choice responses:

[Someone asked what Room Raiders is…]

“It’s one of those dating shows where three guys are taken out of their homes while a girl comes in and checks out their cribs and makes her choice on that. (or three chicks and a dude.)

“I stopped watching MTV after I saw the “Know your rights” sex special with Christina Auguilera. You know, the “Let’s get Dirty” singer who publicly admits she loves sex. She told two abstinent young adults that they “gotta test drive the car before you buy it.”

“You’re watching a voyeuristic show, and then complaining about what you saw. Be an adult and don’t watch that crap. Some people are just as disgusted by the male/female version of the show.” [Freeper with a brain!]

‘Again, its not me. I know I can easily shut it off, it’s the fact that it is out there for young teens to see.”

“I think most of their viewers were teens in the 80’s and have failed to grow up, we call them DUmmies. =o)”

“I believe that MTV is the station that has the commericials for KY jelly “The Personal Lubricant” in which a woman is describing the joys of KY with her backside to a man in the background. The implication is stated subtlely and geometrically. If Room Raiders is being taken over by Rump Rangers, then look for these commercials to start featuring two men.

“I’ve always been somewhat amused at the line “as long as they keep what they do in the privacy….” the fact is kids, they don’t, they never do...they not only push it in our faces, but try to teach it in our schools..and worse than that, they have unleashed one of the worst epidemics on mankind.. Add that to the simple fact that it’s an abomination before God…. even if you’re an atheist, you can’t deny the harm they’ve done society..”

“You have a problem with gay people appearing on MTV? So what channel are they allowed to be on?” [Freeper with a brain!]

Maybe the Hoover is detonative. Martin Viau vacuums the House of Commons in preparation for the return of the Canadian Parliament. Photo by Jim Young

Headline of the Day: Canada Unveils Explosive Gay Marriage Legislation. How asinine is that head? What exactly is going to explode? Conservative Stephen Harper’s head? Just for comparison’s sake, here are some other headlines reporting the same story:

  • Canadian lawmakers to introduce gay marriage bill (The Advocate)
  • Canada Introduces Bill Allowing Same-Sex Marriage (
  • Canada introduces legislation to legalize gay marriages (AFP via Yahoo! News)
  • Canada Lawmakers Craft Gay-Marriage Bill (AP via Yahoo! News)

Some Related diaries this week

NY: Same-Sex Couples Must Be Allowed To Marry by Manhattan Dan

Gays Heckle Bloomberg by Manhattan Dan

Alan Keyes Casting Out his Daughter by LeftHandedMan

More Repugs, Dems sign onto NC marriage amendment by pamindurham

Buster’ producer axed from TV conference by tiponeill

PBS’s Buster airs on UNC-TV – society doesn’t crumble by pamindurham

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Bloomberg Appeals Gay Marriage Ruling. (New York City) Hopes of gay and lesbian couples to wed in New York next month were dashed Saturday by mayor Michael Bloomberg.

Nevada Lacks Funds For AIDS Patients. (Carson City, Nevada) Nevadans with HIV or AIDS could languish on waiting lists for medication due to inadequate state funding, those who work with victims of the disease warn.

Jury Nullifies ‘Gay Rage’ Murder Defense. (Oshkosh, Wisconsin) A jury has ignored claims that a Wisconsin man was murdered in a case of “gay rage” and ruled that Gary Hirte, 19 was sane when he killed Glen Kopitske in July 2003.

Call For Major Federal Gay Equality Bill. (Washington) The National Gay and Lesbian Task Force Friday called for a sweeping LGBT civil rights bill that would cover hospital visitation rights, job protections, and equality in credit.

New Hampshire Accused Of Foot Dragging On Civil Union Bill. (Concord, New Hampshire) A state committee formed to study civil unions and report back to the legislature is doing little to address the needs of New Hampshire’s gay and lesbian population a group of lawmakers charged Friday.

Judge Rules In Lesbian Property Split. (Spokane, Washington) A judge has awarded $6,150 to a Spokane woman to settle a dispute over property her lesbian partner bought during their 11-year relationship and sold after they separated.

Holland May Require Immigrants To Show Knowledge Of Gay Issues. (Amsterdam, Holland) Can two men marry? That is one of the questions that would-be immigrants may be asked as part of a new exam for prospective immigrants to The Netherlands.

Cameroon Suspends Anti-AIDS Drug Tests. (Yaounde, Cameroon) Cameroon suspended controversial tests of a U.S.-manufactured anti-AIDS drug Friday amid complaints that prostitutes were encouraged to have unprotected sex under the trials with no guarantee of medical care if they became infected.

Transsexual Pleads Guilty In Silicone Death. (Albany, Georgia) A transsexual who pumped industrial grade silicone into other trans women to give them feminine features pleaded guilty Friday to felony involuntary manslaughter in the death of one woman who died of complications from the injections.

S.F. Prepares To Celebrate Gay Marriage Anniversary. (San Francisco, California) A year after he made San Francisco a bull’s-eye in the national debate over gay marriage, Mayor Gavin Newsom plans to mark the first anniversary of the city’s “Winter of Love” with a show of defiance.

New York Court Rules Gays Must Be Allowed To Marry. (New York City) A New York State court ruled Friday that same-sex couples must be allowed to marry.

School Board Censures Official Over ‘Ex-Gays’ Letter . (Fairfax, Virginia) A Fairfax County School Board member who told principals to invite speakers into their schools to present the “ex-gay perspective” has been reprimanded by his peers.

South Dakota Gay Marriage Amendment Passes House. (Pierre, South Dakota) Legislation to ban gay marriage in South Dakota met with little opposition when it came to vote in the House, Thursday.

Was Gay Man’s Death Murder Or Medical Incompetence? (Riverside, California) A lawyer for a man charged with murder in the death of a Riverside, California man says his client didn’t kill Jeffery Owens – the hospital where he was taken did.

Psychiatrist Testifies ‘Gay Rage’ Legitimate. (Oshkosh, Wisconsin) A forensic psychiatrist has told an Oshkosh court that ‘gay rage’ exists and that a man was legally insane when he killed a gay Wisconsin man after having sex with him.

Anti-Gay Singer Jailed (Kingston, Jamaica) A Jamaican dancehall singer whose lyrics call for the killing of gays has been jailed but not over his incitement to hate.

School Board Official Tells Schools To Bring In Ex-Gay Speakers. (Fairfax, Virginia) Principals in all of Fairfax county’s high schools have received a letter telling them to host speakers “ex-gay perspective”.

Colorado Springs Sued After Yanking Gay Benefits (Colorado Springs, Colorado) Two lesbian couples are suing Colorado Springs for canceling their same-sex health benefits.

Supports Gay Marriage, Kinky Runs For Texas Gov. . (Austin, Texas) Musician-turned-mystery author Kinky Friedman delivered Thursday on his first campaign promise — to run an unconventional campaign — as he officially began his independent effort to win the governor’s job in Texas next year.

Barring Gays From Adopting Not Homophobic Lawmaker Says. (Little Rock Arkansas) Rep. Bob Adams (D-Sheridan) says that his bill to ban the state from placing children in “homosexual homes” isn’t meant to discriminate against gays.

Virginia Bill Banning Gay Adoption Gutted. (Richmond, Virginia) Legislation to prevent gays and lesbians from adopting was gutted Thursday.

Gay Dems Back Dean For DNC Chair . (Washington) The National Stonewall Democrats Thursday announced its endorsement of Governor Howard Dean for Chair of the Democratic National Committee.

It Was Catholics Not Evangelicals Who Fueled Bush Victory New Survey Shows. (Washington) John Kerry managed the best showing since in decades for a Democratic presidential candidate among mainline Protestants, but his failure to capture a majority of Roman Catholics – people of his own faith – gave President Bush an important advantage in last November’s election, according to a new survey.

Alabama Anti-Gay Bill Heads To House Vote. (Montgomery, Alabama) Legislation paving the way for Alabama voters to decide if the state Constitution should be amended to ban gay marriage is headed for a vote in House.

Tories Revolt & Liberals Squabble Over Canadian Gay Marriage Bill. (Ottawa) Canada’s two major parties are facing internal conflicts over their respective stands on same-sex marriage.

Bush Renews Call For Gay Marriage Amendment (Washington) For the second year in a row President George W. Bush used his State of the Union speech Wednesday night to call for an amendment to the US Constitution to bar same-sex marriage.

New Anti-Gay Attack From Ed. Secretary: ‘Schools Not Place For Gay Issues’(Washington) Secretary of Education Margaret Spellings says she has no apologies to make for criticizing a PBS children’s series which features an episode with a lesbian family.

Gay Man’s Killer Could Be Out In Under 3 Years(Louisville, Kentucky) A man who admitted beating and strangling to death a gay man and then stuffing his body into a suitcase and dumping it in a lake could be on the streets in two-and-a-half years.

Idaho Gay Marriage Amendment Fails. (Boise, Idaho) A proposed amendment to the Idaho Constitution to ban gay marriage failed to get the two-third majority it required for Senate passage Wednesday.

US House Calls For Appeal In Pro-Gay Ruling(Washington) The House of Representatives is urging the White House to appeal a court ruling that allows colleges to bar the Pentagon from recruiting on their campuses because of the military’s ban on gays.

Charges Reinstated Against Gay Marriage Mayor(Albany, New York) Criminal charges against New Paltz Village Mayor Jason West for marrying gay couples were reinstated by a judge Wednesday.

Rare STD Shows Up In Gay New Yorkers (New York City) Fears that a rare sexually transmitted disease that began showing up in gay men in San Francisco last month would spread to the east coast have been realized.

AIDS Cases Decline In SF Bay Area (San Francisco, California) The number of new AIDS cases in the Bay Area has plummeted to levels not seen since the early 1980s.

Vaccine For Cancer That Targets Gay Men & Women 5 Years Off (London) A British scientist says that a vaccine for human papillomavirus (HPV) could be ready “within next five years”.

Kansas To Vote On Gay Marriage Amendment. (Topeka, Kansas) A proposed amendment to the Kansas Constitution which would ban same-sex marriage and civil unions will be put to voters on April 5.

South Dakota Gay Marriage Ban Heads To House. (Pierre, South Dakota) Legislation to ban gay marriage in South Dakota is headed to a vote in the House.

Queer Beer Targets Europe’s Gays. (Geneva, Switzerland) First there was beer. And, it was good. Then there was near beer. And, it was not so good. Now, there is Queer Beer. And the two Swiss businessmen behind it hope it will be great.

Bid To Undo Some Parts Of Anti-Gay Amendment Fails. (Salt Lake City, Utah) After rushing to write a ban on gay marriage into the state constitution last year, Utah legislators are in no hurry to repair damage the law could deal other kinds of domestic partners.

Story Of Gay Baghdad Blogger Turned Into FilmA gay Baghdad man whose online diary became one of the most read publications in the days leading up to the US-led war against Saddam Hussein has turned his story into a motion picture.

‘Gay Panic’ Led To Murder After Sex(Oshkosh, Wisconsin) Lawyers for a Wisconsin man say he was so overcome with guilt and shame after having gay sex that he became enraged and then killed the man.

Lesbian Teen Lovers Waive Arraignment In Grandparent Murders. (Fayetteville, Georgia) A suburban Atlanta teen described as a cold blooded killer and her lover waived their arraignments in the killings of her elderly grandparents.

Virginia Anti-Gay License Plates Gain Momentum. (Richmond, Virginia) Cars in Virginia could soon have license plates extolling traditional marriage.

Utah Moves To Undo Some Parts Of Anti-Gay Amendment. (Salt Lake City, Utah) After rushing to write a ban on gay marriage into the state constitution, Utah legislators are stepping back to repair some of the damage the law could deal other kinds of domestic partners.

Kansas Gay Marriage Amendment Moves Forward. (Topeka, Kansas) The Kansas House gave tentative approval Tuesday to a proposed constitutional amendment to ban gay marriage.

Gay Buying Power Continues To Grow. (Washington) The total buying power of the adult LGBT population in the US has grown by some $30 billion over the past two years.

Canadian Gay Marriage Bill Faces Tough Fight. (Ottawa) The Canadian government Tuesday introduced its long awaited bill to make same-sex marriage legal across Canada.

The Canadian Gay Marriage BillBill C-38: An Act respecting certain aspects of legal capacity for marriage for civil purposes

UK Gay Civil Rights Law Passes First Crucial Test. (London) In the first test of a new law protecting gays from discrimination in the workplace a London labor tribunal has awarded a man nearly $70,000 after he was belittled and harassed on the job.

Jury Rejects Murder Verdict In Gay Slaying. (Louisville, Kentucky) A man who admitted beating and strangling to death a gay man and then stuffing his body into a suitcase and dumping it in a lake has been found guilty of manslaughter not murder as the prosecution had sought.

Canadian Gay Marriage Bill Goes To Parliament Today(Ottawa) The Canadian government will introduce its same-sex marriage legislation in the House Commons today as the opposition Tories and conservative church groups ratchet up the rhetoric.

L.A. County Shuts Down HIV Testing in Bathhouses AIDS Group Says. (Los, Angeles, California) As the public awaits a long-delayed ordinance in Los Angeles County to regulate bathhouses and sex clubs the L.A. Health Department has stopped all funding for HIV testing and prevention services at those businesses AIDS Healthcare Foundation said Monday.

Court Orders NYU To Pay Gay Composer’s Widower $2 Million(New York City) Composer Leonard Bernstein’s surviving partner has won a $2 million dollar wrongful dismissal suit from New York University Medical Center.

Negative Representations Of Gays Up Study Shows. (New York City) There were more “negative” presentations of gay and lesbian themes in mainstream ads in 2004 compared to the previous year a new study shows.

Suit Challenges Oregon Gay Marriage Ban. (Salem, Oregon) A lawsuit was filed Monday challenging Oregon’s constitutional amendment banning same-sex marriage.

Kansas Students Rally Against Anti-Gay Amendment. (Topeka, Kansas) Holding signs and chanting, “Straight, gay, it’s all OK,” more than 100 students rallied Sunday near the Statehouse against a proposed state ban on same-sex marriage and civil unions for gay couples.

Dean Stumps For DNC Chair On Gay Inclusion. (New York City) Howard Dean hasn’t lost any of his feisty support for gay issues as he stumps for the chairmanship of the Democratic Party.

Appeal In Case Of Gay Couple Ordered To Split Up Over Child. (Annapolis, Maryland) An appeals court was told Monday that a lower court ruling that bars a man from living with his partner while raising his 12-year-old son is unconstitutional.

City Ordered To Pay $1.3 Million To Gay Musical. (San Juan, Puerto Rico) A federal court has ordered the city of San Juan, Puerto Rico, to pay the producers of the gay musical Naked Boys Singing $1.3 million in compensation for closing the campy musical a day before it was to open at the state-owned Tapia Theatre in 2003.

Nun’s Gay Outreach Angers Church. (Royal Oak, Michigan) The Archdiocese of Detroit says it canceled planned honors for a nun at a suburban church because her gay outreach mission is incompatible with Roman Catholic beliefs.

New Hampshire May Repeal Gay Hate Crime Law. (Concord, New Hampshire) Legislation before the New Hampshire legislation would repeal the state’s groundbreaking civil rights law.


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Out news with an attitude…

Bloomberg to appeal marriage ruling in NY. NYC Mayor to fight against marriage rights; Read Art Leonard’s expert analysis.

High school students are underserved. Survey: School counselors not trained to help gay and lesbian students.

In Oshkosh, jury tosses gay panic idea. Jury stands up to murderer in case in WA State; Self hate not cause for killing.

Marriage rights move ahead in New York. Judge: ‘Couple entitled to rites;

Task Force: ‘Ruling brilliant‘; Expert analysis.

Newsom celebrates Winter of Love

Anti-gay graffiti found in school

Black AIDS Institute issues report

Silicone death: trans woman gets 5 years

Alan Keyes’ daughter comes out, fights for marriage in Maryland

Bush and Lieberman in new film: ‘The Kiss”

NH lawmakers: ‘Get to work on unions’

Virginia, School Board member censured

Paisley censured for remarks about gays

ILGA tells EU: LGBT rights important

Conservative in Canada for gays

In Taiwan, protests over homophobia

Queer Beer hits European markets

In London, lesbian model wins sex harassment case

Judge rules in lesbian couple break-up

The National Black Justice Coalition: Civil Rights for all Americans

Gay Congressman buoyed by Bush

Staff changes at HRC and Foundation

‘Bear Cub’ opens to favorable reviews

Witeck-Combs report puts buying at an all time high

$2 million awarded to Bernstein’s lover

Gay bar fire blamed on electrical system; Will reopen soon

Liberals in Canada fast track marriage

Zimbabwe gay group recognized by ILGA

In Virginia, haters get new car plates to drive with pride

New lesbian and gay books are kid friendly

Out woman in heavy metal band

Oklahoma GOP student group plans ‘Straight Pride’

Victory Fund wins fundraising award

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